7 things to stop expecting from others

expectationsHi All,

Here is an exciting post that I came across while scanning the internet. It struck a chord with me and I hope it does the same with you. It is from a writer called Marc Chertoff – Do not know anything more about him other than this post. I hope it helps you as much as it did me…..

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations
and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”
―Bruce Lee

The biggest disappointments in our lives are often the result of misplaced expectations.  This is especially true when it comes to our relationships and interactions with others.

Tempering your expectations of other people will greatly reduce unnecessary frustration and suffering, in both your life and theirs, and help you refocus on the things that truly matter.

Which means it’s time to…

1.  Stop expecting them to agree with you.

You deserve to be happy.  You deserve to live a life you are excited about.  Don’t let the opinions of others make you forget that.  You are not in this world to live up to the expectations of others, nor should you feel that others are here to live up to yours.  In fact, the more you approve of your own decisions in life, the less approval you need from everyone else.

You have to dare to be yourself, and follow you own intuition, however frightening or strange that may feel or prove to be.  Don’t compare yourself to others.  Don’t get discouraged by their progress or success.  Follow your own path and stay true to your own purpose.  Success is ultimately about spending your life happily in your own way.

2.  Stop expecting them to respect you more than you respect yourself.

True strength is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles.  It’s about having faith and trust in who you are, and a willingness to act upon it.  Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect, and attention that you should be showing yourself.

Today, look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you, and from now on I’m going to act like it.”  It’s important to be nice to others, but it’s even more important to be nice to yourself.  When you practice self-love and self-respect, you give yourself the opportunity to be happy.  When you are happy, you become a better friend, a better family member, and a better YOU.  (Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the “Self-Love” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)

3.  Stop expecting (and needing) them to like you.

You might feel unwanted and unworthy to one person, but you are priceless to another.  Don’t ever forget your worth.  Spend time with those who value you.  No matter how good you are to people, there will always be one negative person who criticizes you.  Smile, ignore them, and carry on.

In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, the toughest battle you’ll ever have to fight is the battle to be yourself.  And as you’re fighting back, not everyone will like you.  Sometimes people will call you names because you’re “different.”  But that’s perfectly OK.  The things that make you different are the things that make YOU, and the right people will love you for it.

4.  Stop expecting them to fit your idea of who they are.

Loving and respecting others means allowing them to be themselves.  When you stop expecting people to be a certain way, you can begin to appreciate THEM.

Pay close attention, and respect people for who they are and not for who you want them to be.  We don’t know most people half as well as we believe we do; and truly knowing someone is a big part of what makes them wonderful.  Every human being is remarkable and beautiful; it just takes a patient set of eyes to see it.  The more you get to know someone, the more you will be able to look beyond their appearance and see the beauty of who they truly are.  (Read The Mastery of Love.)

5.  Stop expecting them to know what you’re thinking.

People can’t read minds.  They will never know how you feel unless you tell them.  Your boss?  Yeah, he doesn’t know you’re hoping for a promotion because you haven’t told him yet.  That cute guy you haven’t talked to because you’re too shy?  Yeah, you guessed it, he hasn’t given you the time of day simply because you haven’t given him the time of day either.

In life, you have to communicate with others regularly and effectively.  And often, you have to open your vocal cords and speak the first words.  You have to tell people what you’re thinking.  It’s as simple as that.

6.  Stop expecting them to suddenly change.

If there’s a specific behavior someone you care about has that you’re hoping disappears over time, it probably won’t.  If you really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table so this person knows how you feel and what you need them to do.

For the most part though, you can’t change people and you shouldn’t try.  Either you accept who they are or you choose to live without them.  It’s might sound harsh, but it’s not.  When you try to change people, they often remain the same, but when you don’t try to change them – when you support them and allow them the freedom to be as they are – they gradually change in the most beautiful way.  Because what really changes is the way you see them.  (Read A New Earth.)

7.  Stop expecting them to be “OK.”

Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle, just like you.  Every smile or sign of strength hides an inner struggle every bit as complex and extraordinary as your own.

Remember that embracing your light doesn’t mean ignoring your dark.  We are measured by our ability to overcome adversities and insecurities, not avoid them.  Supporting, sharing and making contributions to other people is one of life’s greatest rewards.  This happens naturally if we allow it, because we all share very similar dreams, needs and struggles.  Once we accept this, the world then is a place where we can look someone else in the eye and say, “I’m lost and struggling at the moment,” and they can nod and say, “Me too,” and that’s OK.  Because not being “OK” all the time, is perfectly OK.


People rarely behave exactly the way you want them to.  Hope for the best, but expect less.  And remember, the magnitude of your happiness will be directly proportional to your thoughts and how you choose to think about things.  Even if a situation or relationship doesn’t work out at all, it’s still worth it if it made you feel something new, and if it taught you something new.

Fulfilling your passion


Hi everyone…

To be passionate about something, does not mean that you need to become that something, or do that something for life. Or do it perfectly.

In other words, just because you like to sing, does not mean that you need to become a singer, Just because you like to write, does not mean you need to be a writer.  You only need to do those things that you like to the best of your ability, with conviction and passion.

Mark Nepo who writes beautiful poetry from the heart explains it quite nicely in this short video that he did with Oprah.

Remember – to do what you like best – and do it with all of your heart, in that moment will find joy.

Mark Nepo website

Mark Nepo interview with Oprah






Overcoming Self-Sabotage


Overcoming Self-Sabotage

Overcoming self-sabotage is one of the most exciting conversations you will ever have, because on the other side of it is the emotional freedom and depth of joy that you were born to have. And the process of breaking through denial, facing your fear, anger, and other difficult emotions, and making peace with your pain is going to lead – step by step – to an ending of the internal war with yourself so that you can step fully into the greatest expression of yourself. So let’s begin…
Do you make a little progress toward your goals and objectives, only to backslide again into old, non-serving behaviors? Are you perplexed by how frequently you get off track and wonder, out of sheer exasperation, why? If you are not moving steadily in the direction of what you say you want, you can be certain that you are sabotaging yourself somewhere.
Whatever form it takes – whether unhealthy behaviors or limiting thought patterns – self-sabotage always diminishes the passion and energy we need to fulfill our dreams. Self-sabotage is the outer manifestation of our inner feelings of shame, anger and unworthiness. At the heart of the matter, we only create as much love, fulfillment, success and joy as we feel worthy of having. Yes my friends everything begins and ends with you, and how you perceive things. I used to hate this and fought it constantly.
To make radical progress toward that which you want, it is essential to identify how your inner saboteur is operating in your life. Choose one area where you can see that you’re sabotaging yourself. Perhaps it’s your finances, or maybe it’s in the area of your health or relationships. Ask yourself, “What do I get out of not thriving in this area?” (We are always getting something out of it – What pleasure am I deriving from this? ). Propelled by negative beliefs about yourself, you may discover that you don’t expect to succeed in this area. So ultimately, you get to be right about yourself! And most of us will do anything to prove that we are right—even if it means robbing ourselves of our dreams.
However, today can be a demarcation.

How will you begin to stop your self-sabotage in its tracks?

Take Action Now! Make a list of five specific things you are doing to sabotage yourself. Think about these carefully and allow yourself to be ruthlessly honest. Dont worry you do not have to show this to anybody, or share it if you do not like. I am not a big proponent in saying I am going to do something and then wonder how the hell am I going to do that now that I have shared it with someone. For example: I want to make an extra 500 dollars a month. The prevailing thought is to tell someone that you trust, “In six  months I am going to be making an extra 500 dollars a month” then if you are anything like me, promptly go into panic mode and hope the other person forgets the whole thing, and then throw out the paper it was written on. 

Just remember as you do this exercise, keep in mind that to have the best year of your life you will have to do the opposite of what you have been doing. This self-observation will guide you to identify the five things you can do to counter the behavior patterns that undermine your success. For example, if you find yourself wanting cake in the afternoon, counter it by having an apple first. Do you routinely spend more than you save? You can counter this habit by putting five percent of what you earn in a savings account each week. Or as I do at the end of each day I put my spare change in a jar, and then forget about it, it is amazing how much you can save by just doing this one little thing. I then promise myself that if I do not spend it, I can cash it in and splurge on anything that I want.

Finally, as you make a list of these five new action steps, practices or tasks, choose one that you can accomplish today. And then do it with a sense of accomplishment and love Remember that if you fail there is always tomorrow, or just start over what is the big deal.
Emotional Support Tip As you begin this transformative journey,you should be very patient with yourself as well as showing yourself a great deal of compassion. If you are going to beat yourself up, make sure it is with a feather and not a hammer. Just remember you are doing this for yourself first and foremost. Also keep in mind that what you are doing is something that the great majority of people that you meet on a daily basis would never attempt.   Having said that it is now time to get to work on building a new you. When the little voice in your head says that this is ridiculous or that nothing is changing, just remember: If you change 1% a day for one year that will be a 365% change by this time next year. We are all changing whether we want to or not, some of it is by aging, others by life circumstances, and still others by health and emotional concerns. So why not make the decision to change in the direction that you want to change, and not be tossed by the winds of others. The journey of change is never an easy one, but with persistance and patience the payoff can be quite phenomenal. 

What are some examples of things that can be changed?

1) Thought patterns – if you are the type of person that gets pissed fast, wait a few seconds before reacting (count to 5 before responding)

2) If you are the type of person that always says yes, then say no just once to see how it feels.

3) save a few pennies each day and then splurge. This is pretty cool, after a while you will find that you are trying to get change to save

4) Take time each day to be with yourself and get to know you.

5) Read a self-help book.

6) how about just walking a little slower and noticing the things around you.

7) How about committing to putting a smile on your face, or making at least one person that you meet smile.

these are just quick things I thought of while sitting here. There is nothing silly about your ideas, or what you want to accomplish…  Life is to  be enjoyed not analyzed. Enjoy each day as if it is your last.

4 Easy changes for a healthy, safer environment.

Blue Angels
This post is excerpted from an article in the Melaleuca Journal
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Somewhere inside all of us is the great escape: The restful place of untangled thoughts, where the ticking of time is silent and eternity whispers. A plece such as this awaits you.

A place such as this was not made for here….. here was made for you.

Close your eyes and picture a place where wildflowers grow along side a small stream, and as your eyes follow the stream they come upon a peaceful cabin. Notice how the plants and flowers are afforded a chance to peer into the water and hold a quiet celebration of their own beauty. Like a canopy of stars that shine on a blanket of dark in the nighttime sky, they too are having their glorious moment. And it is yours to keep and ours to share. This simple joy that stands before you is nature’s profound song to the soul; a place where dreaming is expected, quiet thoughts are inevitible and a refreshing perspective is certain.

Take your time….. enjoy this place of quiet tranquility. Like a treasure of diamonds yet undiscovered, there are riches you can easily miss along the way. Take your time, slow down and breathe in the beauty that is all around you.

As you travel the road of life you may be passing by the very destination that you have been longing to arrive at.

A place such as this… Our presence here can add nothing to its solitude, beauty or serenity. It was never really meant to be that way. Remembering again, you were not made for here… this place of solitude and serenity was made for you…

Walk slowly thru the moments of your life savoring every one as it unfolds; For every moment is the destination that longs to be remembered, and deserves to be remembered. for it is the moments that make up the day, which make up your life. Which will ultimately be remembered. Savor them as they arrive greet them with a smile as they can never be replaced or relived.  For as we look back upon the day(s) of our lives it is the moments that we remember most. That special feeling we had as the wind whispered thru the trees, or the smell of a flower caught our awareness. The way the sun felt upon our face on a warm summer day, or the way we felt when we listened to the heartbeat of the one we loved. We remember the small moments of joyous laughter we had when we were with dear friends who are no longer with us, or the sorrow at the loss of a loved one or relationship.

Walk slowly thru the path of your life -enjoy the meandering stream that are the moments that make up your day. Enjoy the people and animals as wildflowers that grow along the banks of your meandering stream, and when the day is done and you are sitting on the front porch in this place that was not made for here but was made for you. Smile and know that you are a special person who got thru the moments of your day with a smile on your face.

Until the next time take it slow and remember

“The light of the world is knowledge”





It seems that from the moment we wake up in the morning until the time we finally fall asleep at night, our minds are constantly bombarded with all kinds of thoughts, one right after the other – non-stop for the most part. Although there are times when we might experience silence in the external world, like taking a walk along the beach or taking a walk in the woods or reading a book or watching a movie, there is hardly a moment when we experience internal silence, or as the buddhists call it “A quiet mind”. Our minds are constantly chattering about this and that, and all the while bringing us thru the entire gamut of emotions that we are capable of feeling,  from — happiness to sorrow, to worry and fear, anger, jealousy and various other emotions that we are bombarded with.

Thoughts can be either positive or negative, depending on who we are and how those thoughts affect us. Positive and negative thoughts are both two sides of the same coin. It is always a  good thing to have as many positive thoughts as possible. But one of the things that we must realise about our thought processes,  is that they are rarely under our control and especially when faced with a problem or a crisis our mind automatically shifts into negative mode, imagining the worst and producing tremendous amounts of stress and anxiety within us. Many scientists attribute this to an evolutionary process, while still others attribute this to environmental factors. My take on it is, “Who cares what the source of it is”, when I am in the middle of my crap, I am in the middle of my crap.

Although we know that in tough times we should be positive, and think positive thoughts and even though everyone around us is telling us to be positive, in our hearts of hearts, our minds almost without exception turn to the negative first. Fearing the worst outcomes, and knowing that the worst is going to come to fruition.

Positive thinking is a wonderful thing and can bring about  magnificent changes in our lives, and should definitely be practiced on a daily basis. Science has actually shown how neural pathways are formed by our thought processes, whether they are negative or positive, or even neutral (the last part will show neural pathways atrophying when not in use).  But for most of us, and I most definitely include myself in this, it remains a fantasy, our minds gets drawn to negativities almost like a piece of iron gets drawn to a magnet.

Our mind has an almost hypnotic power over us, and easily leads us into the depths of negativity, depression and disillusion, when we are in serious trouble. It is good to advise others to remain positive, but when we are in any deep trouble, how many of us can really remain positive? Even the most optimistic person will move to negativity first, and then after sitting in it will then begin to weigh their options and decide which path to take.

If you had a bad day at work, or even just seemed to have a bad day ( I am not sure about you, but I have had days that as soon as I stepped out of bed, the day seemed to go from bad to worse), and even though you want your day or life to come back to normal, and even though you know that positive thinking is what is so desperately needed, you will still have a predominance of negative thoughts. Such is the human mind. And the harder we try to get out of our negativity, the worse the situation seems to become.

As an example, for you parents out there, If it is late at night and your son or daughter has not yet come home, and you can not contact them, how many parents would have positive thoughts and how many would be plagued by negative ones? It would be a very rare parent who can still maintain a positive outlook and remain calm, in this kond of situation and not let his or her mind imagine the worst.

Like many things which are good for us but which we struggle to achieve, positive thinking  is a great tool, but often remains a dream rather than a reality. I have been practicing positive thinking for years, and I think what it has enabled me to do, is not stay in my negative thoughts as long as I would have.

If a person is able to think positively most of the times, their life is likely to be filled with peace and happiness, as we used to say in Brooklyn they would be living in the land of LA-LA. But as sad as it may sound that is not reality for most people. For me what really helps and is probably a better idea is to accept situations and events and even life as they are, rather than trying desperately and unsuccessfully to think positively when circumstances are not going our way or going in the way we hope they would.  Once we are ready to accept life as it is,or events as they are and we are ready to let go of the results. Once we can accept the outcome after doing our best efforts, we can find a sense of inner peace that much easier. With acceptance, we know that we are can look at what is going on in our lives in an objective manner and be able to change iur circumstances or even the outcome of the event we are undergoing. We are not beholden to the first negative thought, or held hostage by paralysis by analysis which negativity seems to bring about. For the more spirtiually inclined we can say  we are getting the right lessons that we need right now, and all that is occurring in our lives is only happening to guide us, polish us and to push us forward on our evolutionary spiritual path.

Once I push past the negativity and arrive at the space where I can feel  acceptance it brings to me a deep calm, which even positive thinking cannot bring. For then I know that I am not controlled by outside circumstances (Sort of like your version of reality does not define who I am). Try and remain positive but if that is not possible, try acceptance and try to let go.


question of integrity

Integrity – adherence to moral and ethical principles. word that drive to the core of our being and define our moral and ethical behaviour. These are very interesting words, ones that everyone should live by, and most people do. However, as we grow older and sometimes wiser, we find that everything is not as black and white as we would like it to be.
For example, when I was young I was told not to steal, and this is something that I have carried forth into adulthood. However, I have often worndered if I were poor and hungry and did not have anything to eat;Would I steal to feed myself or my family? Would you? Or would you look and say I can not steal no matter what as that would impugne (word of the day ) my integrity.
Or if my children were sick, and I did not have a means to pay for medication, would I steal to pay for their medication.
On a more realistic note, if you were in a situation where you were told to lie about something, and if you did not, it would mean a loss of something valuable or someone close to you.
Would you lie?
Or how about if you told the truth about something that was so damaging that it would destroy a life, would you lie to save that life?
I have a friend that says that integrity is black and white, it is who you are. I agree that it is who you are and is ingrained in us. But the question becomes if we were put into an extraordinary circumstance would we uphold our integrity.
I am reminded of a scene out of “Sophies’ key”, which is an excellent movie.
Where one character looking at pictures of a scene from 1941 France shows the nazis rounding up Jews stated: “If I were there I would have hid the jews from the nazis”, and the reporter looks at him and says “That is a very easy thing to say sitting in a comfortable office 60 years later”.
So my question to you is: Would you be like so many heroes (who never saw themselves as heroes), and hide the Jews or would you be like the vast majority that turned them in?
Or, If you were put into the most extreme situation imaginable where your integrity was put on the line, would you be able to walk away and say that my integrity is still intact?
Able to close your eyes at night knowing you did the right thing, and did not have to rationalize it away.
Just some ponderings as I sit in the local public library waiting for the powere company to light my path in the wake of the hurricane that just passed my way.
Until the next time remember,
The light of the world is knowledge,

How far will your ripples go?

We have all pretty much heard the story of how there is a butterfly in Asia that flaps its wings and sets off a series of events that leads to a tornado in Texas. At first glance we look at it and smile, saying there is no way that could possibly happen. Yet, upon closer examination, we find that it could happen, and that we take part in similar events on a daily basis.

It’s called the butterfly effect, and comes from  something called Chaos theory. In the hollywood version of Chaos theory, George Bailey in It’s a Wonderful Life, changes the fate of his town when he wishes he had never been born. When good old George gets his wish, he sees how his not being born changes the whole makeup of the town and its people, and how his simple life brought meaning to so many other lives. Even those he did not know. In chaos theory, a small change in a system—like the flap of a distant butterfly’s wing—can dramatically change the system … leading to a tornado in Texas.

The whole idea sounds far-fetched, but mathematicians insist that it is real,and upon closer examination you can see how it works in a real life situation

So what is chaos theory anyway… I hear a number of you ask…… What the heck is this guy talking about.

Well, in its simplest terms it means that pretty much everything that we encounter in our daily lives; whether it is nature (rain, snow, heat, cold) or  society (how others act, what is going on in the world, etc), we can not control or predict. Pretty sad for the control freaks out there… LOL…

However, there is a loophole. According to chaos theory there are feedback loops that hold everything in place (society, people, etc) and that although individual persons can not control the larger events, each person on an individual basis has an enormous influence on these smaller loops that feed into the larger picture. Thus causing a ripple effect. So in effect although we do not have the power to control events in a traditional sense we all possess the “Butterfly power” of subtle influence.

So in a very real sense we are the butterflies, flapping our wings metaphorically and creating ripples that spread far beyond what we could ever imagine, and affecting the outcome and even altering the outcome of events that have yet to occur.

We are the butterflies

I don’t care how much you love your job; sometimes you don’t love it, and you crawl out of bed and wonder why. Why am I doing this, does any of this really matter? How could today possibly matter? How could a few more keystrokes at the computer mean anything?

The butterfly effect fascinates us because we want to find meaning in our actions. We want to be the self-aware butterfly in asia, flapping our wings just so and creating tornadoes wherever we please.

There’s no doubt about it. We are all small actors on the stage of the world, and in our communities. But even the smallest actions can create ripples that change the world. We can’t anticipate the ripples, but we can still flap our wings knowing that our actions might help create a storm of activity.

This means we need to take our actions seriously. A butterfly was made to flap its wings, suck nectar, and migrate thousands of miles with its brood.

What were you made to do? You can’t predict the effects of your actions, but you can take them seriously. You can develop your talents. You can work with diligence and faithfulness and integrity, and treat others no matter how far down they have fallen with the same dignity that you would want to be treated with.

If you want to change the world and yourself, take heart. Your small actions can and do have tremendous impact. Impacts far beyond what you could ever imagine.

How do you know the smile that you brought to the cashiers face when you were checking out didnt brighten her day just enough to help her when she was getting angry at her crying baby that evening?

How do you know the little snippet of conversation that you had with the stranger – that you forgot about as soon as you walked away, saved that persons life because they were in a depression, and you said just the right thing at the right time?

How could any of us possibly know how our ripples are affecting the lives of those we touch on a daily basis. Conversely speaking how many times has a smile come to your face when recounting something someone said, or giving somebody a snippet of advice that you heard years ago in a passing conversation. You see the ripples flow both ways… Pretty interesting when you think about it. Mataphorically speaking someone flapped their wings years ago, and the effects were finally felt in another part of your life..

We dont know and could never know the ripple effects that we have in the river of life.

But I find another truth at work in this mathematical parable. The hypothetical butterfly that flapped its wings in asia never experiences the Texas tornado. It doesn’t know the end of the story, and neither do we.

Who knows where the ripples of your small actions may lead.  We don’t and can not control that. Grandiosity doesn’t motivate us to be good stewards of the talents God gave us. No. We flap our wings because God gave us wings. Simply taking flight is reward enough. Simply serving the immediate good of our local community and the people we meet is reward enough. It has to be.

There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it. Edith Wharton

Until the next time, remember

the light of the world is knowledge.




Steps to change your life.

How to Change Your Life for the Better

There are a few simple things you can do to improve everything. This post will show you, in simple terms, how to change your life for the better a little bit at a time.

How to Change Your Life Around

Whatever your current situation is in life,it may be a reflection of your most recent as well as your current thought processes, which in turn has led you to make decisions that moved you down the path that you are currently travelling. Those recent as well as  current thought processes have driven you to take actions “in a certain way” and that has dictated your current situation, whether that situation is success or struggle or somewhere in between. The cool thing is it is never too late to turn it around and start getting more of the good stuff in your life.

Steps You can take that will enable you to Change Your Life for the Better

1. Stop spending energy talking about or surrounding yourself with people that do not believe in you. Don’t give them energy and don’t complain about them, once you stop feeding them energy they will either a) go away or b) stop intruding.

2. Take control of your subconscious. Your subconscious is YOUR greatest employee but like most employees, if you don’t tell it what to do on a daily basis, you get whatever you get which, is not much. Left to our own design, your subconscious cannot help but reside in negativity as that is what the mass mediocre in this world puts out there. The media, news, and the masses are all focused on the bad things in the world, YOU need to consciously choose to be different if you are to have a different experience. Steps to accomplish taking control of your subconscious are: – Create an incantation or affirmation that you can repeat over and over while your mind is at rest, things like “I love making money”, “I love my body”, “Everything is perfect”, “I am a magnet for good”, “Thank you for my healing”, etc. – Watch your language like a hawk. That is your internal as well as your external language.  Don’t utter a word that doesn’t serve you. This is the toughest part. It greatly helps to have a partner. This means don’t sit at lunch and gossip about who is doing you wrong or how much money you lost or ANYTHING that doesn’t serve you. Stop focusing on where you are and instead start focusing on where you could possibly go.

3. Take altered and inspired action. For example, don’t chant “I love my lean body” while eating doughnuts or “I love making money” while watching Oprah, go do the things that could potentially build your success, make you money or help you lose weight. Doing steps one and two will vastly improve your results when it comes to number three but know that you DO have to take action. Some people watched “The Secret” with one eye closed and missed the parts in the movie and the book that told you to take action, take inspired action now.

Watch This Feeling…

If you wanna know how to change your life for the better, get used to a certain feeling. You ever make a decision and feel like your stomach was tied in knots? Or feel your alarm bells going off?  This is THE feeling that can change your life. You can change your life a little at a time but when you are about to make a BIG breakthrough you will most likely feel terrified to death! Know that you are a bringer of good in this world and you deserve happiness and that sometimes, or should I say a lot of times, those uncomfortable feelings occur right before your biggest breakthrough. Suspend your disbelief and believe that you are worthy of massive success, the alternative simply does not serve you, and we know what the alternative is!

Remember the light of the world is knowledge



life is beautiful -enjoy the ride

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So often in life we are distracted by our situation or mood that we forget to see what is most important. During these times we fail to see all the good things around us, focusing on typically insignificant negatives that have little to do with the facts of the situation at hand. “We find ourselves searching for weeds in a meadow of wildflowers”.
Rather than look at the beauty around us, we allow ourselves to focus on a single negative aspect thereby identifying a situation in a narrow perspective leading to an overshadowing of positive thought. All of us have been guilty of this at one time or another as it is a part of human nature.
Think for a moment about what it would be like if we could redirect these thoughts back to the flowing green grasses and flowers of the meadow. The process is simple yet somewhat difficult when our mind wants to focus on finding the negative weeds of the situation. The challenge is to just stop and give ourselves that little moment to take in the beauty around us rather than allow ourselves to be overwhelmed with the insignificant details.

Until the next time remember

“The light of the world is knowledge”